“I Can Forgive, I Just Can’t Forget”
Forgiveness is a word that many of us know, and many of us feel that we can uphold that word. What happens when you are faced with a situation in which you feel that you can’t forgive the person? You see it time and time again, in movies, TV shows, music, and in reality. Where someone has committed an atrocity and they are asking for forgiveness, or begging for it. In some cases, victims of crimes forgive the perpetrator, or forgive them on behalf of the friend or family member if they are no longer present. In music, you hear the singer begging for the forgiveness of a lover, or a friend. Many of us have forgiven people all throughout a lifetime. It may be for one occasion or the same occasion many different amounts of times. Some of us have said “I forgive you”, but deep down inside you still haven’t. That is the hardest forgiveness to make. The forgiveness in which you know or which you feel that you can’t, or shouldn’t, forgive someone but you say you do anyway. Maybe you say it to “save face”, because you don’t want to seem like the bad guy, or maybe you “forgave” the person because you felt like you had too. In either case, you must be true with yourself and be true to the other person or situation at hand.
Forgiveness is one of the most precious and often overlooked traits when it deals with a relationship, a situation, or a person. 9 times out of 10 the person who has committed the atrocity wants nothing more than to be forgiven, and for that forgiveness to be true. Often times that person is forgiven, but the atrocity committed is not forgotten. So, then you must ask yourself. If the situation is not forgotten, how can that person be forgiven? Short answer is, it’s not forgiven. As long as that situation plays in your mind and plays in your heart you have never truly forgiven the person. Trust and forgiveness are the two main traits that are needed in order to have a thriving relationship, or be able for you to thrive as a person. Forgiveness is not a trait that anyone or everybody can do easily, BUT can happen if you truly, truly, want to forgive someone. Everyone deserves forgiveness, regardless of the atrocity committed. It does not have to be right away, it does not even have to be within the same year as the atrocity, but eventually forgiveness will need to come about the situation. Not saying that the situation needs to be forgotten, but it does need to be forgiven.
Forgiveness: Creating closure for oneself, to be able to move forward in life.
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